Before you proceed with the rest of this post,
please read this to catch up. My story will be regarding the same girl.
Don't worry. I will wait for you to come back......
OK...now that you are up to speed, let's rewind a couple of weeks.
I was mostly dressed. I had the appropriate undergarments, jeans and a cami. Z walked in and said, "Mom, you look hot!"
WHAT??!!
I look hot? From a six year old? What is going on here and where did he learn that? Skip and I talked and decided we would lay low with it. If it was something that he learned, it would repeat itself.
Sure enough, it did. Yesterday in the car with
Spice from the Spice Rack, Z asked if he knew what hot was. "Yeah, it's like when you sweat and stuff." (Good answer, Spice.) Z told him that was not the "hot" he was referring to. He whispered the meaning of the new word in Spice's ear.
It was now time for action.
"Z, where did you learn that?"
"School. From Bri."
"What else is Bri teaching you at school?"
"About L-O-V-E and K-I-S-S-I-N-G."
Skip and I exchange looks. This isn't good. I know what kind of knowledge this little girl has considering what she taught him last year. I don't have a good feeling about this. I'm no fool, I taught school long enough to hear what kids are talking about. Mostly they have it all wrong, but still they are talking. This is something we all have to face with our little ones, and it is scary.
Later in the day when we had time to ourselves with Z we questioned him more. We found out that this girl has been showing them how to kiss by using books or her hand. I am guessing this isn't the innocent kiss you would give your grandpa either. Boy does my blood boil just thinking about what this girl must know and WHY she knows it. Her loss of innocence saddens me deeply. I hurt for her.
We explained to Z that we want to be the ones to teach him about love based on what God teaches us. We told him that he is not old enough to be talking about that yet, but that he can always come to us with questions. We promised him that we would be truthful with him if he will promise to be truthful with us. We gave him some strategies to avoid talking with this particular girl about such grown up things.
I am left feeling uneasy and angry. This world is cruel and fast and ugly. We are good parents who try to protect our kids from such things. But the world finds it's way in and infiltrates it's message. This poor girl has lost her childhood to grown up things. I don't feel one nice thing about her teaching my son her knowledge. But is it her fault? If it wasn't her, it would have been someone else.
There is always someone else.
"Father, please protect our children from the cruelties of this world. Please guard their hearts and minds to things they don't need knowledge of. Help them turn a blind eye and deaf ear on things that could hurt them. Protect them, Lord, from the evil one who seeks to steal, kill and destroy their innocence. Give us as parents the wisdom to teach our children Your ways and Your truth. Help us guide them down the path You have chosen for them."