I have a confession to make. One that might send a few of my friends into severe anxiety. I am not a shopper. I have lost my love for shopping. There I said it.
Jen, are you OK? Sarah?
There was a time (Before Kids) that I loved to leisurely stroll from store to store and buy the cutest clothes for Skip and I. There was a time when shopping for my house was a dream come true. The most perfect day would have been antiquing at a variety of favorite flea markets then coming home to decorate with my new finds.
I really don't know what happened to me. I still like to be cute. I still love beautiful home goodies. I still love children's clothes and shoes. But I don't love the process. Maybe it's Skip's mantra that he has drilled into my head the past 11 years. "Good bye. I love you. Don't spend any money."
His idea of a "budget" must be paying off because I just spent a lovely day in local BIG city (ha!) and my idea of a good find was my library book. There was not one thing I wanted to buy at the beautiful home store. There was not one clothing store that I HAD to go to. Even when I do, I hear him in the back of my head saying "DON'T SPEND ANY MONEY."
What has happened to me?
I guess the genetic gene pool in which we created our children holds the same shopping aversion. Yesterday I was taking Z to buy school supplies. By the second store, he informed me that he was getting "store sick". I begged him to tough it out because it was stuff for HIM. He told me that I had 10 minutes.
Don't think I didn't fast forward his life in 40 plus years. He will be the grumpy husband sitting outside the store waiting impatiently for his wife. Because he will be "store sick".
What is the cure? I really don't want to be "store sick" the rest of my life. I guess in the meantime I will be sitting here NOT SPENDING ANY MONEY and wearing my clothes from the Y2K collection.
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While I am deciding on whether or not I can still be your bloggy friend, let me just say that shopping is absolutely IN MY BLOOD! But it has lost some of its luster since having the Wog. I'm not totally sure if its due to his behavior in a cart or stroller or if it's the lack of funding since having to buy diapers and decreasing our income by like 40%.
So, you really shouldn't feel bad, I'm sure it'll come back. Meanwhile, I've decided that I'll stick it out & remain your bloggy friend to help you through this! :-)
Ok..first let me pull myself together.
Ok there I am better....
I would always be your friend even if you don't wanna shop. I think I love it so much because it gets me out of the house. I do live for the kill of the hunt though! I truly enjoy nabbing a super bargain. I am always thinking ahead while shopping too...remember L's shoe basket! that gift was 9 months in the making.
I, the biggest shopper ever, am growing tired of it too. I think because it has become such a chore, that even when it isn't to get milk, functional items, etc, I would rather be sleeping! I shop so much, but it's just for the same junk over and over and over.
Now that we have a budget it is such a pain because you have to go to 50 stores and pour over the internet to make sure you got the best deal possible.
I just want a NAP!
Z is so witty! I love the store sick comment! I'm sure your happy shopping feeling will return! It will take just the right skirt or shoes calling your name but it will happen!
I am right there with you, my friend. Shopping really does not do it for me anymore. My thoughts on it differ a little...I think bargain type stores have ruined it for us. Of course I love finding a great deal on the clearance rack at Target...like capris for 75% off.
The problem is I have grown so accustomed to bargain shopping that I cannot pay full price for stuff anymore. That and the fact that I just cannot pay full price for anything and still manage to feel my family for the month.
Love the "you have 10 minutes" comment. That boy is smart and a clone of his daddy!
I agree I think Z definitely comes by that honestly!
I agree shopping has lost in allure for me as well. I still enjoy it some days, but I have to be in the mood. Other days it just zaps me of energy and I don't understand it.
Sometimes I think there are just too many options to choose from and since I'm not a great decision maker it takes too much effort.
If it makes you feel any better, I had a similar experience with Richie. I thought he would be so excited to do school shoppping, but my expectations were too high ;-) Besides, he's a boy. What was I thinking?
The Y2K collection. You've got me laughing.
I think we could shop together. I get store sick pretty easily and could totally picture myself coming home with a library book.
Kate
well, i will confess....i have always hated shopping. it bores me. i just want in and out with what i need. and...i saw a piece on the today show a few months ago about this person who vowed to not buy anything they did not NEED for a YEAR! it affected me. i am certainly not that legalistic about it - but it has made me no longer "boredom shop."
I know what you mean too. I still consider myself a "shopper" at heart, but the kids, the heat, the lack of funds...it all dampens my "shopping spirit." I'm hoping it'll return with cooler weather and the Holiday season!
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